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In many cultures and religions, virginity is a prime topic. Some even put a price to it. In most cases, when we talk virginity, we have women in mind even when we know it cuts both sides. But then i guess its because it is women who have something to show for it.

Most of us were raised to believe the sanctity of virginity. How to reserve it till marriage or at least loose it to not just anyone. In fact, every ex-virgin has a tale of how they lost it and to who; a story they hold closely.

Our society today however has a different look on this matter. Whilst years back, the dowry negotiation or marriage of a virgin were held with some level of sacred to it, people of today put little value to this. If anything, one will be ashamed to say they are a virgin. People will not understand when you say,"I am waiting till marriage."

"Virginity is not a guarantee of a happy marriage you know?"
"People have waited till marriage only to be disappointed."
"What happens when you find out on the wedding night it is not what you wanted?"
"I would never marry a virgin, they are too much work"

So many opinions around this particular topic, each guided by some theory, story,old myth, experience or sheer ignorance. Whatever the case, I think it would be nice if everyone kept to their lane on this one. If someone prefers to wait till marriage,let no one discourage or deem them foolish for wanting something different from yours. If another has zero regard for virginity, let them be.

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