Her Thoughts

Who should pay the bill on when a couple goes out? Who should call first after you exchange numbers? Some people will say, the guy should. But I say it’s 2019, any one of them could. Any one of them well able to, should. Women no longer go out on dates and expect the guy to automatically pay the bill and our Uber. Unless the guy offer to do that, women carry our own money. That way no one see’s the other as inferior or feels entitled because they paid the bill. It takes two to tangle. If a couple is going to make it, they need to stand together and do what each can do. It should not be expected who pays rent and who pays the other bills. I think anyone well able to should foot the bills, man or woman. If a guy is unemployed and the lady is the bread winner, no them should feel superior or inferior. We are used to the man being the bread winner but we have seen this is not always the case. It is this kind of thinking that has seen many men fall into depression when the lost their ...

I am glad to see the changes that our society is slowly adopting to and the things we keep unlearning. Most of us have been raised in a place where the society has always had an opinion over women even before she speaks or we get to know her. Girls grow up knowing “their lane”. For a long time we have had certain jobs set out for women. But am glad times are changing now; anyone can thrive anywhere. She is raised to “fit” in her place. If a marriage breaks and a woman has had enough and decides to leave, the society is quick to call her impatient. If the man remarries, no one remembers the first wife; no one judges him when he does. In fact, some say, “a man cannot stay like that.” But if the woman remarries, she is quickly judged and efforts to shame her are relentless. When a boss lady shouts at an employee, she is termed too emotional. They go on to say, “no wonder women bosses are the worst.” But if a man shouts, he is only being a man, authoritative. As though one can read emo...

I read this story online of this teenage boy whose girl classmate soiled her uniform and she did not know. The boy walked up to her and gave her his sweater telling her, “wrap this around your waist.” The girl was so embarrassed but the boy told her, “don’t worry, these things happen, I have sisters.” And he rode with her all the way. Now that there is a well raised young man! Most people in my age and above were raised in a way we’ve grown embarrassed of this natural phenomenal. We could never talk about it openly. Some religion even considers a woman unclean during her period. I remember the first time I saw a pads advert- I was about 10- and I asked my dad what “Always ultra” is used for. My mum was probably in the kitchen or out and I was watching tv with dad so yeah, I shot the question to him. Guess what he told me? It’s used when someone has cut themselves. For a long time in my childhood I knew pads were some kind of nursing bandages, crazy right? Fast forward, we finally h...