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Chivalry is not male

Who should pay the bill on when a couple goes out? Who should call first after you exchange numbers? Some people will say, the guy should. But I say it’s 2019, any one of them could. Any one of them well able to, should.

Women no longer go out on dates and expect the guy to automatically pay the bill and our Uber. Unless the guy offer to do that, women carry our own money. That way no one see’s the other as inferior or feels entitled because they paid the bill.

It takes two to tangle. If a couple is going to make it, they need to stand together and do what each can do. It should not be expected who pays rent and who pays the other bills. I think anyone well able to should foot the bills, man or woman.

If a guy is unemployed and the lady is the bread winner, no them should feel superior or inferior. We are used to the man being the bread winner but we have seen this is not always the case. It is this kind of thinking that has seen many men fall into depression when the lost their jobs even though their wives were providing. This kind of thinking has had women thinking unemployed men are lazy resulting to disrespect and broken homes.

 NOTE TO WOMEN
We cannot be fighting for equality and still take the back seat when it comes to taking up responsibilities. We cannot fight for equal treatment and yet shame men who will not open doors for us. We should be able to open our own doors and if in case a man does open it for you, he did so out of a good heart, not because he is a man. These societal expectations for every gender need be revised, we are in new times.


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